THE SELF-RECLAMATION PROJECT
A Roadmap for Narcissistic & Antagonistic Abuse Recovery
Hello. I'm so glad you’re here.
If you’re like many of the clients who walk into my office, you’ve spent months - maybe even years - searching for a name to describe the chaos. You’ve been looking for a label that makes the gaslighting, the circular arguments, and the cold shoulders make sense and you landed on the label Narcissism.
As a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician, I want to validate all of the research you have done. That label was your "aha moment" - it was the first time you realized that maybe, just maybe, the problem wasn't you.
Often, clients ask me: "Is my partner a narcissist?" And as a Registered Psychotherapist, my answer is always the same: I cannot diagnose. But more importantly - for your healing - the diagnosis doesn't actually matter.
A label is just a word. But what you have lived through is a reality.
In this Project, we are going to shift from the word Narcissism to the word Antagonism.
Why? Because Narcissism is a diagnosis, but Antagonism is an over-arching system.
When we talk about an "Antagonistic System", we stop focusing on what is wrong with them and we start focusing on what is happening to you. We look at the environment that has made you feel so small, so tired, and so "not enough".
This Project isn't about figuring them out. It’s about Reclaiming You. We use Narcissism as the doorway because that’s the word that helped you find me. But Antagonism is the path we are going to walk together to get you home to yourself.
You are safe here to stop wondering what they are and start remembering who you are.
I don't just understand this system from a textbook. I have walked through the fire of an antagonistic environment that turned violent, and I have had to find my own way back to solid ground. I'm here as a clinician, but also as a witness. I know the stakes of your survival and the heavy cost of your bravery.
The Self-Reclamation Project is a clinical and compassionate roadmap that integrates Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR) tools for those navigating narcissistic or antagonistic abuse. We move beyond mere understanding of the antagonist, and focus on the truth of your experience and the physiological impact on your nervous system.
This isn't about "fixing" you - you were never broken - it's about untangling the enmeshment and returning the leadership to your "Core Self".
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Map and understand the tactics used to keep you small.
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Identify the "Internal Heroes" that kept you alive.
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Apply EMDR resources to settle your nervous system.
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Shift from fear-based survival back to the warmth of your own internal light.
YOU AREN'T BROKEN. YOU'VE JUST BEEN LIVING IN "THE CONSTANT STORM".
Reclamation isn't defined by whether you stay or leave.
If you are exiting, co-parenting, or building a fortress from within, this Project helps you establish an internal "Sovereignty Plan" that the antagonist can no longer breach.
HEALING IS AN ORIENTATION. NOT A DESTINATION.
The Three Pillars of Your Reclamation
MASTERCLASS
TACTICAL COMPANION
ANCHOR SESSION
A self-paced journey through a comprehensive, 100+ minute clinical intensive. Across five digestible chapters, you will map the environment, untangle how your survival parts reorganized, and utilize IFS and EMDR resources to settle your nervous system.
This robust, 90-page interactive curriculum serves as your physical anchor through recovery, moving you from an intellectual understanding of trauma to the somatic feeling of your own truth. It provides a grounded space to orient your mind, body, and identity.
An opportunity to add a 1-on-1 clinical integration session designed to ground the theories of the Project into the lived experience of your nervous system. This 50-minute session provides a sanctuary of uninterrupted safety where we meet the parts of you that felt the most ached during your self-paced work.
I created this because I needed it too.
This map was drawn from the wreckage of my own past so that you might find your way to safety a little faster than I did.
YOU ARE ENOUGH. YOU ALWAYS WERE.
The Self-Paced Masterclass
Chapter 1 – "The Constant Storm": This chapter is about moving from "The Internal Fog" of confusion into the clarity of knowing. We deconstruct the architecture of the "Antagonistic System". By understanding how your natural and beautiful desire for attachment is weaponized against you, we lay the groundwork for radical acceptance.
Chapter 2 - "The Impact Zone": In this chapter, we shift the lens from the antagonist’s behaviour to your internal landscape. You will learn to read your "Body’s Receipts" - the somatic language of hypervigilance and fatigue that your nervous system uses to keep you safe. We introduce you to the IFS model, identifying your "Core Self", "Exiles", and "Protective Parts".
Chapter 3 - "The Darkening": This chapter is about exposing "The DIMMER" (Dismissiveness, Invalidation, Minimization, Manipulation, Entitlement, and Rage) and how it is used by the antagonist to devalue your reality.
Chapter 4 - "The Internal Fog": In this chapter, we untangle the invisible glue of betrayal blindness and cognitive dissonance that makes letting go so difficult. We will address the mechanics of gaslighting and DARVO, while helping you process deep grief and "The Wound of Not Enough".
Chapter 5 - "Reclaiming The Light": In the final chapter, we reframe boundaries as internal sacred agreements rather than external confrontations. You will develop a personalized "Sovereignty Plan" to maintain nervous system hygiene and live outside the shadow of the antagonist.
The Tactical Companion
This robust, 90-page interactive workbook serves as your physical anchor through recovery; inside you will find:
❤️ "Heart Notes": Reminders of compassion to anchor your nervous system when the work feels heavy.
REFLECTIONS: Targeted questions designed to help you move from intellectualizing the trauma to feeling the truth.
⚓️ "Anchor Focus": Specific prompts to bring to your 1-on-1 session for deeper processing.
🧭 "THE REALITY COMPASS": A grounding station at the end of each Chapter to orient your Mind, Body, and Identity.
The Anchor Session
Once you have moved through the core curriculum, we will meet for a private 50-minute Anchor Session to provide the attunement and uninterrupted safety your system has been denied. This dedicated space allows you to safely process the somatic aches in your body and anchor the framework directly into your specific lived experience.
Throughout your Tactical Companion workbook, you will see Anchor icons, which serve as a signal that you don't have to solve this specific pain alone. While we cannot process every item on this list in one session, you can choose the one that feels the loudest in your system.
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Clinical Care Note: Because this is a regulated clinical service, it is entirely optional and currently open exclusively to residents of Ontario. Please reach out prior to investing if you reside outside the province.
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Availability: To protect the integrity of your therapeutic experience and ensure dedicated clinical care, limited Anchor Sessions are available each month.
Tools for Restoration
This Project doesn't just ask you to think differently; it uses evidence-based frameworks to help you be different. I know that the exhaustion you feel is held deep within your system, so I’ve incorporated three primary modalities to address the mind, the body, and the internal family.
Internal Family Systems (IFS): We use the Parts model to understand how your system reorganized to survive the storm. By identifying your "Core Self", "Protective Parts", and your "Exiles", we move from internal conflict to "Self-Leadership". You aren’t broken; you are a complex system of "Internal Heroes" who have worked very hard to keep you safe.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): Antagonistic trauma often leaves the nervous system in a state of chronic high alert, where the body continues to brace for storms that have already passed. In this Project, we use EMDR resourcing tools to code positive internal resources directly into your nervous system.
Somatic Awareness and Compassion: Healing happens from the bottom up (i.e., body to brain). We focus on somatic awareness (learning to listen to the leaden weight in your bones or the bracing in your chest) and meet the physical signals with self-compassion instead of judgment.
The Path Forward
Healing is a journey that won’t end when the Project finishes. At the conclusion of our Anchor Session, we can discuss the best next step for your continued restoration.
If my practice currently has an active opening and you feel pulled toward our dynamic, we can discuss transitioning into regular 1-on-1 therapy. If there is not an immediate opening, you are welcome to join my waitlist for future availability. Because this work is so specialized, my practice often operates on a waitlist. This isn't a barrier; it's a boundary that ensures when we do work together, you have my undivided Self energy and attunement. While you wait, I encourage you to revisit the chapters - they were designed to be a bridge to keep you steady until a chair opens in my sanctuary.
You deserve support that truly understands the nuances of relational trauma, the workbook also provides a resource to help you find and vet practitioners specifically trained in Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
I have built the Project this way because you deserve to be handled with integrity. In an antagonistic world of future-faking and empty promises, this Project is a commitment to the truth. Whether our work together is for a single session or a longer season, you will leave with a map in your hand and a nervous system that has finally begun to exhale.
The Value of the Roadmap
When you join the Project, you receive a concentrated therapeutic experience that includes:
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A Comprehensive Masterclass: Over 100 minutes of guided clinical mapping, broken into five digestible chapters.
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The Tactical Companion: A comprehensive, 90-page interactive landing place designed to help you settle your somatic anchors and map your environment.
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A Clinical Anchor Session: An exclusive opportunity to add a private, 50-minute session to ground the theory into your specific lived experience. (Please reach out prior to investing if you reside outside of Ontario.)
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A Specialized Clinical Framework: Immediate access to a roadmap built by an EMDR-certified therapist and Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician - expertise that usually requires months of 1-on-1 work to access.
Why This is an Investment
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A Fast-Pass to Clarity: This map was drawn from the wreckage of my past so you can find your way to safety faster than doing it alone.
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Evidence-Based Stabilization: We use Internal Family Systems (IFS) to meet the "Internal Heroes" that protected you, and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) resources to settle your "Body's Receipts" of "The Constant Storm" you’ve endured.
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Insurance Coverage: As a Registered Psychotherapist in Ontario, the clinical portion of this investment may be eligible for reimbursement through your extended health benefits.
Choose Your Path to "Sovereignty"
The Self-Paced Roadmap $209
For those who want an independent, comprehensive framework to study in privacy and at their own pace.
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Included: The 100+ Minute Masterclass Webinar Series (5 digestible chapters)
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Included: The 90-Page Interactive Tactical Companion Workbook
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Perfect for: International clients, those who prefer independent study, or those working within a specific budget.
The Full Reclamation Experience $399
For those who want to combine independent clinical mapping with a dedicated 1-on-1 sanctuary to ground the theory into their specific lived experience.
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Included: The 100+ Minute Masterclass Webinar Series (5 digestible chapters)
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Included: The 90-Page Interactive Tactical Companion Workbook
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PLUS: A Private, 50-Minute Clinical Anchor Session with Kendra
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Perfect for: Ontario residents looking for a dedicated somatic sanctuary to ground the framework directly into their personal lived experience.
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Note: Limited availability to ensure dedicated clinical care.
STOP BEING A REPOSITORY FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S SHAME. RECLAIM YOUR LIGHT.